Be Your Own Best Friend

Be Your Own Best Friend by Judi Singleton

Morgan La Fey

"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." -- Albert Einstein
"We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances." -- Victor Frankl
"Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards." -- Unknown
"The shell must break before the bird can fly." -- Tennyson
"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." -- Carl Jung

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. One of the lessons of this life is to learn to love yourself for just who you are. One of the ways that you will find out how you feel about yourself is to listen carefully to what you say to yourself in your thinking and the other is to listen to what you say to yourself when you are talking to others. Words have power and each time you think something positive or negative about your self you are creating your own reality. No one thinks in your head but you. I caught myself thinking today I hate getting old. Wayne Dyer says "don't let that old person move in." When I say I hate getting old I am letting that old person move into my life.

Kuan Yin
These thoughts and words hold power. Whether we communicate with someone else or ourselves, we must use right speech so we may begin the process of truly loving ourselves. I can counteract these statements with affirmations so when you catch yourself like I did today apologize to yourself as you would to a friend, after all you should be your own best friend. Then use an affirmation.

I love and approve of myself.

I am lovable and loving

I am a good friend to myself and others.

Be as good to yourself as you would be to your best friend or a loved one. Let you be a loved one in your life. Until you love yourself you cannot love anyone else.

When we citizen ourselves we think we are being loving. We think we are keeping ourselves in line. We are motivating ourselves to do better. But that is just not true. We are affirming what we do not want to happen.
"You can't stop negative self-talk or negative unconscious remarks to others about ourselves until you are conscious of it. As long as you are doing it unconsciously you have no choice over it. Stop, get quiet,to and notice what you are feeling several times a day. You can start by noticing every time you feel sad and empty, say to yourself what am I thinking, and then exploring what you were telling yourself that led to the painful feeling. If it is something negative then apologize to you and use an affirmation.

Self-Love comes to people when they give themselves the gift of listening. Self-love is seen when someone learns to accept themselves and is authentic. When we stop trying to twist ourselves into the roles we think others will. Just being ourselves and accepting who we are.

Psyche

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